Should a birth giver have to right to say “no contact” when giving up a baby for adoption?
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innocence faded asked:
My friends and I were talking about this one day.
My friends and I were talking about this one day.
The reason that some women give for having abortions is that they do not want to give up a baby for adoption, only to have them suddenly appear in their lives years later, without caring what this “blast from the past” will do to their present lives.
If a current (I guess as of the time of the child’s birth) health history of the birth giver is given, do you think the birth giver should have the right to have it said in the records that she wants no contact ever? What about in the case of ****? Should the birth giver be allowed to have it in the records that the child is a product of a rape, therefore she does not want the person coming back and digging up painful memories?
DENNIS
December 20th, 2009 at 8:12 pm
MITCH
I think the birth mother should have the right for “no contact.” There could, however, be an intermediary who could be contacted in the event of a medical emergency.
Women need to have this safeguard so they won’t feel pressured by the judgemental spirits of others about their unwanted pregnancy. It’s very sad that abortions are frequently chosen because of these reasons.
December 21st, 2009 at 11:11 am
DAREN
Just what I think.. When people find out they are adopted, They or a lot of them turn it into a life hunt for thier birth moms. Sooner or later they might appear. It is just a feeling they have. Even if the records show what you wrote. You dig far enough you can find almost anything.
December 24th, 2009 at 2:12 am
LEONARD
ok say you don’t want to every now your child and you gave it up and two or three years go by and you go and get married and start having kids and you end up moving into the town where that child lives and mind you its 15 years later. you son or daughter started dating and it is nothing other then the son or daughter you gave up. how would you feel then?
December 27th, 2009 at 3:48 am
FLOYD
The best system is for contact to not be allowed as a matter of course unless it is an open adoption and then for there to be an adoption registry. If both the adoptee and the birth parent enter the registry, they will be given each other’s contact information. It’s a great system that many states have in place.
December 30th, 2009 at 3:16 pm
ALBERTO
thats pretty scummy for a mother to not want contact with a child they gave up for adoption .. especially if they have had ample time to improve their lives and not make the same mistakes..
anyone who would treat their birth child this way ..even after giving them up for adoption should be shot..
childern want to know who their parents are.. whats wrong with that?
January 2nd, 2010 at 11:20 pm
MASON
I recently saw on the news where a child conceived by a ***** donor with a “no contact” ended up somehow appearing on his “father’s” doorstep.